Wounds, Scars Article

I just want to share some articles i've read. This is General, so don't get so DEFENSIVE with what i had to share.

Wounds of War

Release the battle scars of love
You know the feeling. It's post-breakup. You're devastated. Whether you made the break, or worse still, were broken up with, the fear slowly creeps in. What if I never find someone new? What if they really were the one for me? What if I'm… (gasp) unlovable!
Everyone experiences insecurities in the wake of an expired affair. In fact, many of them are directly related to the relationship that has ended (and the ones that came before). If they cheated, you think all lovers cheat. If they were lazy, you think all partners are lazy. If the relationship was fiery but expired quickly, you think passion can never last. Well stop right there, I'm Destined to be Alone Voice! One of the best ways to ensure you get the love you deserve is to let go of your misconceptions and assumptions - even when they're based on your own experience. There are some generalizations that can be made about love, but the universal truths are few and the options are many.

Here's just a little example:

TRUTH: You are loveable, flaws and all.

No matter what went wrong last time, you are worthy of unconditional love. Even if self-esteem isn't your strong suit (something you've got to work on), I'm 100% sure you can find at least one thing you like about yourself, whether it's your nose, your wardrobe or the way you smile at everyone you see in the elevator. If you look hard, there are most certainly more things that make you special. So whether you think you're too fat or too thin, too selfish, too meek or too demanding - it doesn't matter. We can all work on strengthening our positives and reducing our negatives (and these are things we all need to do). But love doesn't require perfection… think about it. Nobody's perfect, right? But all around you, every day, people are finding love. So can you!

MISCONCEPTION: You already know how relationships are.

I don't care how many lovers you've had, no one knows how "relationships" are because there are way too many of them to generalize! So if your ex cheated don't just assume a new person will too. Now that's not saying don't use the information you've gained through experience. There are always signs that indicate certain behaviors and feelings in everyone! But oftentimes, whether we know we're doing it or not, we make assumptions that prevent us from finding the right kind of mate. You have to believe that a good person is out there - even if you don't have any proof (yet).

Manifestation is the key - remember, you create your destiny - and that goes for love too!